One of the hardest things about a divorce can be learning to let go, not just of a relationship, but of the life you built together along the way.
In order to do that, many couples hire a mediator such as Elizabeth Henson, Attorney Mediator, P.C. in Denver. I act as a neutral third party, guiding both parties as you make the best possible decisions for both sides.
If you’re getting ready to start working with a professional but aren’t sure what to expect, these divorce mediation tips will put your mind at ease.
Divorce Mediation Tips
Read on to find out how to prepare for divorce mediation and make sure it goes as smoothly as possible.
Find the Right Mediator
Finding a divorce mediator isn’t as simple as doing a quick Google search and picking the first one you see. In the US, mediation is generally an unregulated industry. This means that the standards vary wildly between providers. You need to do some thorough research before you hire anyone.
Look into the qualifications and background of each mediator you find before considering hiring them. You need to know that they have the skills to handle your case. As for myself, I am a family law attorney who has conducted close to 4,000 mediations.
You also need to make sure you can have a positive working relationship. Many divorce mediators will offer a short phone consultation to give you an idea of what they can offer. Make a quick phone call first and if you like what you hear, then you can move forward from there.
Be Willing to Negotiate
There’s no point in going through divorce mediation if you’re not willing to compromise.
The nature of the mediation process requires cooperation and compromise from both parties, and it won’t be successful if one or both spouses don’t actively take part.
Divorce can be a difficult, emotional, even traumatic process, and spouses sometimes approach it with a stubborn mindset. However, the my way or the highway approach won’t get you anywhere, so be prepared to meet in the middle.
Create a divorce mediation checklist, noting down where you’re willing to compromise and what’s not an option for you. That way, you can come prepared.
Dedicate Time to Self-Care
A divorce is a huge life change. Many people find their lives turned upside-down, in complete shock over what is happening. The stress, anxiety, and exhaustion of it all can take a major toll on your mental health and well-being.
During this time, it’s important to remember to take care of yourself. Otherwise, you may not be able to approach your divorce mediation with a clear head.
The choices you make could have a huge domino effect on your life going forward, so it’s best to be in the right frame of mind to make big decisions. You’ll be splitting your marital property, making financial settlements, possibly discussing maintenance, and if you have children, creating a parenting plan too.
The Support and Guidance You Need
These divorce mediation tips should give you an idea of what to expect. For more information, please read my FAQs on mediation to find out how and why the process works.
Once you decide to move forward, please get in touch with me at Elizabeth Henson, Attorney Mediator, P.C. to discuss how I can empower you to decide your own future – instead of leaving it to a judge.