CHILD SUPPORT’S JUST A FORMULA, RIGHT? HOW HARD CAN IT BE? (Part 3)

Deviation from the Child Support Guidelines

As I discussed in my first blog regarding child support, Colorado child support is calculated on a formula.  This formula is often called the child support guidelines.  Many people believe that these guidelines are absolutely required to be applied, with no wiggle room. 

Although it’s true that in most cases the courts follow the child support guidelines, the law does allow the court to deviate from the child support guidelines. The standard for deviation is that the application of the guidelines would be “inequitable, unjust, or inappropriate.”   If the court deviates, the court is required to determine what the child support would have been under the guidelines, and then give detailed reasons for the deviation.

Reasons that may (not shall) justify deviation from the child support guidelines include, but aren’t limited to:

  • one parent spends substantially more time with the child than reflected by a straight counting of overnights;
  • extraordinary medical expenses incurred for treatment of a parent or a current spouse;
  • extraordinary costs associated with parenting time;
  • gross disparity in income between the parents;
  • ownership of a parent of a substantial non-income producing asset;
  • consistent overtime not included in the gross income of a parent in the child support calculation (explained more in my next blog); and
  • income that is more than full-time or is from second jobs (explained more in my next blog).

The existence of one of these factors does not require the court to deviate from the child support guidelines, but may be used as a factor in a court’s decision to deviate.  The court can still deviate from the child support guidelines even if one of the above factors does not exist.  However, for any deviation, the court must state what the child support would have been under the guidelines, and then explain its reason for the deviation. 

Check out Part 1 and Part 2 in this series on child support in Colorado.

Here’s What to Expect in a Divorce Mediation

what to expect in a divorce mediationThe divorce process can be a tense and emotional matter, requiring immense time and effort. Simply filing the paperwork can be difficult enough without a drawn-out court battle to accompany it.

Many couples opt to take a less contentious route and participate in divorce mediation. Although this process can have tense moments, a mediator will guide you through the negotiations, provide information in a neutral manner and help bridge the gap. Matters are often settled quickly and more efficiently.

If you have recently filed for a divorce and don’t want to hash out the private details of your life in a courtroom, then divorce mediation is an alternative that should be considered.

Today, we break down the three main steps so you know what to expect in a divorce mediation at Elizabeth Henson, Attorney Mediator, P.C.

THE First Meeting

This meeting will be an informative session where the mediator explains what to expect in a divorce mediation, including her specific process for guiding your mediation, as well as answer any questions that either party might have. Depending on your divorce mediator, this might be handled by phone or in person.

At this time, the mediator will often inquire about the specifics of your relationship and the issues within the divorce that need to be negotiated. She’ll also provide confidentiality forms for both parties to sign, stating that whatever happens during mediation cannot be discussed in a courtroom.

The first meeting is the icebreaker and information session that helps the mediator understand exactly what needs to be discussed and accomplished before the mediating begins.

Divorce Negotiations

The divorce negotiations often begin in the first meeting.  Your mediator may suggest dealing with the simpler topics first in order for both parties to “practice” coming to quick, mutually beneficial agreements before tackling the bigger, more emotional issues.

Negotiations won’t always be so straightforward, but your mediator will try to help keep both you and your spouse on track and assist in the brainstorming of solutions. She will help apply communication tools that can even be used in future interactions with your ex-spouse.

It’s important that you come to mediation with an open mind, a commitment to compromise, and a willingness to understand the other side’s point of view so that the process is as painless as possible. A divorce mediator will be there to facilitate the conversation, but it’s largely up to both participants to control emotions and approach matters sensibly.

Finishing the Agreement

Once the negotiations are over, and at the parties’ request, the mediator will draft the agreement reflecting the outcomes of your mediation. If you are co-parents, then a parenting plan is included as well.  These agreements are usually prepared and sent to the parties within a week to ten days after the meeting.

Until the agreement is signed, it is not legally binding and you are entitled to have your divorce lawyer review and advise you on all points. Once signed, submitted and approved by a judge, both sides must adhere to the agreement or be held responsible by the courts (subject to circumstances such as fraud or lack of full financial disclosure).

What to Expect in a Divorce Mediation

Even if you’ve come to a decision that divorce is the only answer, it doesn’t mean that your only option is to settle matters in a dramatic courtroom showdown. Here at Elizabeth Henson, Attorney Mediator, P.C., I’ve helped countless couples take a healthier route.

Divorce mediation is a civil, more cooperative approach to working through issues with your spouse so that you can move forward in your separate lives. It’s confidential, often less expensive and usually less contentious when you choose to work with a neutral, third-party mediator.  Of course, you always have the option of having an attorney assist you, either in mediation or outside of mediation. The process of mediation and the assistance of an attorney are not mutually exclusive.

For more of what to expect in a divorce mediation and to discuss next steps, please get in touch.

3 Divorce Mediation Tips to Help You Prepare for Your First Session

divorce mediation tipsOne of the hardest things about a divorce can be learning to let go, not just of a relationship, but of the life you built together along the way.

 

In order to do that, many couples hire a mediator such as Elizabeth Henson, Attorney Mediator, P.C. in Denver. I act as a neutral third party, guiding both parties as you make the best possible decisions for both sides.

 

If you’re getting ready to start working with a professional but aren’t sure what to expect, these divorce mediation tips will put your mind at ease.

Divorce Mediation Tips

Read on to find out how to prepare for divorce mediation and make sure it goes as smoothly as possible.

 

  1. Find the Right Mediator

Finding a divorce mediator isn’t as simple as doing a quick Google search and picking the first one you see. In the US, mediation is generally an unregulated industry. This means that the standards vary wildly between providers. You need to do some thorough research before you hire anyone.

 

Look into the qualifications and background of each mediator you find before considering hiring them. You need to know that they have the skills to handle your case. As for myself, I am a family law attorney who has conducted close to 4,000 mediations.

 

You also need to make sure you can have a positive working relationship. Many divorce mediators will offer a short phone consultation to give you an idea of what they can offer. Make a quick phone call first and if you like what you hear, then you can move forward from there.

 

 

  1. Be Willing to Negotiate

There’s no point in going through divorce mediation if you’re not willing to compromise.

 

The nature of the mediation process requires cooperation and compromise from both parties, and it won’t be successful if one or both spouses don’t actively take part.

 

Divorce can be a difficult, emotional, even traumatic process, and spouses sometimes approach it with a stubborn mindset. However, the my way or the highway approach won’t get you anywhere, so be prepared to meet in the middle.

 

Create a divorce mediation checklist, noting down where you’re willing to compromise and what’s not an option for you. That way, you can come prepared.

 

  1. Dedicate Time to Self-Care

A divorce is a huge life change. Many people find their lives turned upside-down, in complete shock over what is happening. The stress, anxiety, and exhaustion of it all can take a major toll on your mental health and well-being.

 

During this time, it’s important to remember to take care of yourself. Otherwise, you may not be able to approach your divorce mediation with a clear head.

 

The choices you make could have a huge domino effect on your life going forward, so it’s best to be in the right frame of mind to make big decisions. You’ll be splitting your marital property, making financial settlements, possibly discussing maintenance, and if you have children, creating a parenting plan too.

 

The Support and Guidance You Need

These divorce mediation tips should give you an idea of what to expect. For more information, please read my FAQs on mediation to find out how and why the process works.

 

Once you decide to move forward, please get in touch with me at Elizabeth Henson, Attorney Mediator, P.C. to discuss how I can empower you to decide your own future – instead of leaving it to a judge.

What Are Divorce Mediation Services?

Divorce Mediation ServicesIf you’re thinking about ending your marriage, you may also be searching for the right professionals to support you and help make the process easier.

A mediator, such as Elizabeth Henson, Attorney Mediator, P.C., can work with you and your spouse in coming to an amicable divorce agreement while potentially avoiding the distress that often accompanies a court-fought divorce.

To better understand divorce mediation services, please keep reading.

Getting to Know Mediation Services

To learn a bit more about my divorce mediation approach and how I can be helpful for your specific circumstances, you are welcome to call or email me. 

We can arrange a 15-minute phone call where I will listen to your situation and discuss with you how I can help you and your spouse achieve the most straightforward divorce possible. Through divorce mediation, you and your spouse will have a neutral third party to facilitate negotiations and create a more collaborative environment. In my experience, this often leads to both sides coming to easier agreements.

When you enlist divorce mediation services, you and your spouse will typically have a better chance of settling the most important matters of your marriage, such as the arrangements for your children, division of assets and debts, spousal maintenance and more.

During mediation, you’ll work through a series of discussions and negotiations until both sides are satisfied with the agreement. By putting your positive energy into mediation sessions, you might even notice reduced stress levels (an unexpected but welcome side effect often reported by my clients).

Figure Out What You Need

Anytime that you are planning to participate in the mediation process, it’s important that you come prepared with a checklist of what you hope to achieve from the negotiations.

This way, you’re able to figure out your top priorities and what issues have some wiggle room. During a mediation session, you can then speak clearly and honestly about what’s most important to you moving forward.

If you have children together, learning to better communicate and compromise during mediation also gets you on the road to mending your relationship to the point that you can co-parent productively.

I have also had clients seek out family counseling to help them heal and adjust to the changes that they’re going through. Beyond mediation, there are many ways to promote a more amicable divorce. It’s all about what you need and what works for you.

Hire an Experienced Divorce Mediator

Finally, you need to make sure that you hire an experienced divorce mediator, someone that you feel will listen and provide the guidance you need at every step.

There are many mediation companies out there, but you need to ensure they have the right credentials. You’ll want such important matters to be handled by a professional with the skills for such a task.

In this regard, you’re welcome to contact me at Elizabeth Henson, Attorney Mediator, P.C. I am a family law attorney who left the courtroom in 2001 to offer couples a more amicable option and a more reasonable cost. Over the years, I have successfully conducted thousands of mediations, providing both education and guidance while enabling my clients to take control of their futures.

To learn more about my divorce mediation services, please take a look at my website and feel free to schedule a consultation. I look forward to helping you.

Finding the Right Divorce Mediator

Finding the Right Divorce MediatorIf you and your spouse have decided to end your marriage without going to court, finding the right divorce mediator is your next step. Here at Elizabeth Henson, Attorney Mediator, P.C. in Denver, I’ve helped numerous couples who have decided to take control of their own futures. I realize that finding a mediator might feel overwhelming. Today, I offer a few ideas to help you find the right professional to guide you through the process.

Offers a Practical Approach

A good divorce mediator can provide a practical approach to your situation. This means that they’ll listen to your opinions and engage both parties in a discussion about how the court may view your situation and certain decisions. Ultimately, a mediator can help you arrive at creative solutions when needed and find results that both parties find agreeable.

Acts as a Neutral Party

It is important that you feel like the mediator is a neutral third party who is not fighting for one side’s best interests, but focused on the best interests of everyone, including children. You want both sides to feel that his or her views are respected in the process. A mediator should also encourage you to have your agreement reviewed by a  divorce attorney on your behalf before you sign it.

Provides Education

When finding the right divorce mediator, make sure they’re able to help you understand the mediation and legal processes. They should encourage you to ask questions, as well as provide a thorough and clear response.

Expert in Divorce Mediation

You want a professional who is an expert in divorce mediation and is trained specifically in helping separating spouses find common ground. Your mediator should be able to assist everyone in remaining cooperative, focused and calm. Here at Elizabeth Henson, Attorney Mediator, P.C.  in Denver, I offer the education, information and guidance needed to help parties work through a difficult process with dignity and self-determination.

Understands Complex Issues

The best divorce mediator will be able to provide you with guidance for many situations. If you have children, you could want a mediator who is going to be able to help you through some potentially complex family dynamics. If your finances are complicated, you need a mediator with experience in such matters. While they won’t be accountants, they should be aware of the impact involved in assigning assets and debts to one or the other party.

Expert Troubleshooter

Mediation can be a complicated process, so it’s important that your mediator is a highly effective problem-solver. Many divorce mediations require a great deal of conflict resolution, so your mediator should be effective in helping you and your spouse find fair solutions to problems and disagreements.

Good Rapport

Divorce mediation can have far-reaching consequences for your future, making it important that you feel comfortable with the divorce mediator you choose. You should feel that you can trust her and that you will be listened to and treated fairly during the process.

Finding the right divorce mediator in Denver may help you and your spouse more amicably move forward in your separate lives. By keeping your private life out of the court system, it’s often a healthier situation for both parties, as well as any children involved. If you need a divorce mediator, please contact Elizabeth Henson, Attorney Mediator, P.C. I look forward to getting to know you and helping you through the process of mediation.

Divorce Mediation A Few Myths Addressed

If life has led to your marriage ending, it’s important to know the top seven myths of divorce mediation in Colorado. At Henson Mediation, I’ve seen many people fall for this misinformation only to end up having the courts to determine the outcome of their divorce and future of their children. I believe that you should be in control, not the courts. Let’s take a moment to dispel a few falsehoods so that you can choose the best path for your situation.

The top seven myths of divorce mediation in Colorado:

 

It’s a Complicated Hassle

Divorce is rarely easy, especially when children are involved. No matter what route you go, divorce involves paperwork, fact-gathering, research and decision making. Mediation is more streamlined than a costly, drawn-out court proceeding.

 

Mediators Call the Shots

Mediation is not court, and your mediator does not have the power that a judge possesses. You and your spouse make the final decisions. A mediator is only there to facilitate a balanced and equitable outcome that both parties agree upon and accept.

 

No Lawyers Allowed

There are many lawyers who understand and advocate using mediation. They can participate by advising you on legal rights, options and obligations. They can also assist you in negotiations, unique ideas for settlement and of course, all the paperwork.  Even when you choose to settle your case through mediation, you still always have the right to have a lawyer assist you in whatever capacity you want.

 

It’s a Weak Way to Go

In reality, mediation often results in spouses who are not communicating in healthy ways speaking their mind and focusing on what’s really important to them, not just what is dictated by the law. In my experience, mediation can instill confidence and even establishes the foundation for improved, ongoing interactions which can be particularly helpful for divorced parents.

 

Mediation Takes Longer

Mediation is often the faster and more efficient option. Many couples already have all of their paperwork completed and ready to go, filing it all at once.

 

Power is Out of Balance

Some say that during mediation, one spouse can easily overpower the other, creating an unfair outcome. The fact is, a trained and experienced mediator will be able to identify and control behavior that’s overly dominant.  In my mediations, there is also the option of being in separate rooms if one spouse desires.

 

Mediation is Always Right for You 

I’ve successfully conducted over 3,000 mediations; however, it’s not always going to be the most effective solution. Both sides need to be respectful and conduct themselves appropriately. Mediation works if both parties are willing to consider alternatives and negotiate in good faith.

 

Despite these myths about divorce mediation in Colorado, this option has gained huge popularity in recent years, and for good reason. Divorce should be on your own terms, not up to a judge to dictate. It’s more confidential, typically less expensive and provides a less contentious conclusion of your marriage.

 

To learn more about the process and Henson Mediation, please call or contact me today.


Blogs and articles by Elizabeth Henson, Attorney Mediator, P.C. are for educational purposes only and to give you a general understanding of the law, not to provide any legal advice or be used as a substitute for competent legal advice from a licensed, professional attorney in your state or jurisdiction.

Use all blogs and articles at your own risk. The information presented may not reflect the most current legal developments, verdicts or settlements. These materials may be changed, improved, or updated without notice. Elizabeth Henson, Attorney Mediator, P.C. is not responsible for any errors or omissions in the content of this site or for damages arising from the use or performance of this site under any circumstances. By reading our blog and articles you also understand that there is no attorney-client relationship created between you and Elizabeth Henson, Attorney Mediator, P.C.

Is Divorce Mediation Effective?

divorce mediationAt Elizabeth Henson, Attorney Mediator, P.C. in Denver I’m often asked, is divorce mediation effective? My short answer would be yes, but it all really depends. When you enlist my services, I will do my best to facilitate productive negotiations and equitable outcomes, but I’m certainly not a miracle worker. Both parties need to come to the table mentally prepared, ready to listen, willing to be transparent, and confident enough to advocate your own best interests.

Why Use Divorce Mediation?

Mediation is a process where an impartial mediator facilitates discussions to assist you and your spouse in reaching a divorce agreement. While litigation can be expensive and emotionally charged, mediation can be a more affordable option that allows you to decide your own future. Mediators are neutral and are there to help both parties create their own outcomes. This allows both sides to develop solutions and work together instead of having a judge determine your life moving forward.

What Makes Divorce Mediation Effective?

Mediation is not as formal and constrained as the court process can be. Your agreement can be creative and personalized according to your specific circumstances. The process is designed to first find areas of agreement, then figure out amenable solutions in areas where you disagree. While mediators are there to guide you, we do not make decisions or dictate solutions.

With that said, what makes divorce mediation effective are two sides who are willing and able to participate honestly and authentically. Factors include:

  • A clear understanding of the divorce process. An attorney mediator like me can provide general insight, but I am not your lawyer, accountant or therapist. You should be able to advocate, negotiate and problem-solve for yourself. If you’re unclear or require assistance, you’re always welcome to bring an attorney to sessions to help guide you. Also, you have the right to have an attorney review your agreement and give you advice on it before you sign and commit to the agreement.
  • The ability to respond rationally, not react emotionally. You should be able to set aside the anger and hurt while at the negotiation table. While it’s only natural to run into areas where both sides disagree, actively listening and being open to your spouse’s needs and opinions are invaluable to the process.
  • A commitment to honesty and follow through. You must be sincere in your intentions. Ulterior motives in mediation can quickly land you in a Colorado divorce court when the agreement falls apart.
  • A history of violence or abuse in the relationship. While animosity can be managed by having each party in a separate room, extreme circumstances are typically not a good fit for mediation. If there is any fear of retribution or retaliation, it can be very difficult to pursue one’s own best interests. You should always feel safe and supported.

 

 

Is divorce mediation effective? It absolutely can be. It can save you money and time, as well as help you find agreeable solutions that work for both parties, especially if you have children through your marriage. To learn more about my divorce mediation services, please contact me at Elizabeth Henson, Attorney Mediator, P.C. in Denver to schedule your first appointment.


Blogs and articles by Elizabeth Henson, Attorney Mediator, P.C. are for educational purposes only and to give you a general understanding of the law, not to provide any legal advice or be used as a substitute for competent legal advice from a licensed, professional attorney in your state or jurisdiction.

Use all blogs and articles at your own risk. The information presented may not reflect the most current legal developments, verdicts or settlements. These materials may be changed, improved, or updated without notice. Elizabeth Henson, Attorney Mediator, P.C. is not responsible for any errors or omissions in the content of this site or for damages arising from the use or performance of this site under any circumstances. By reading our blog and articles you also understand that there is no attorney-client relationship created between you and Elizabeth Henson, Attorney Mediator, P.C.

Identifying Financial Pitfalls in Divorce Mediation

Identifying Financial Pitfalls in Divorce MediationAt Elizabeth Henson, Attorney Mediator, P.C. in Denver, I help my clients with identifying financial pitfalls in divorce mediation. If resolved through litigation, divorce can potentially cause significant monetary damage and lead to an outcome that doesn’t satisfy either party. By bringing all of your finances to the table during mediation, I can help you navigate this often contentious issue and work towards mutually agreeable outcomes.

Mutual Debts

Even if it’s agreed that one party or the other will be responsible to pay a debt, whether a credit card, mortgage or some type of loan, both sides are still legally liable if that debt is held in both of their names. Creating equitable financial arrangements through mediation can help alleviate this risk because both sides come to an agreement for which debts each will be responsible after the divorce. Using this method results in nobody feeling slighted, and in my experience, everyone is far more likely to follow through on paying accordingly.

 

 

Future Budgets

Moving from a dual-income to single-income can be a huge hit to the budget for one or both parties. We will look at realistic numbers on both sides during divorce mediation sessions to identify budget surpluses and shortcomings. You and your spouse may also need to re-evaluate certain lifestyle choices and adjust accordingly. From this point, we can better and more clearly approach discussions surrounding the division of assets and debts, as well as determine next steps for spousal maintenance and child support (if applicable).

 

 

Positive Parenting

Divorce can sometimes prompt parents to compete for a child’s affection in unhealthy ways, such as buying extravagant gifts. Instead of putting the children in the middle of your tug-of-war, you can better protect their well-being through mediation. In each session, both parties will work through their issues, disagreements and points of contention. The goal is to come to an amicable divorce agreement that enables both sides to leave much of the tension and anger behind. In turn, this can enable you to enjoy more positive parent-child relationships.

 

 

Staying Focused

Because mediation involves working through tough decisions side-by-side, it can potentially help you build a new and healthier type of relationship with your former spouse. The key is to stay focused, both inside and outside of mediation. Divorce can be messy and emotionally draining, even with an experienced mediator to guide you. Keep things simple by deferring major decisions and life choices until everything is finalized. For example, you may want to avoid engaging in a new relationship or making significant financial decisions immediately.

 

By working together, respectfully and openly, to create an equitable divorce agreement in mediation, I’ve found that both parties can more easily move on with their lives. If you and your spouse have decided to proceed with a divorce in Denver, please contact me, Elizabeth Henson, Attorney Mediator, P.C., for assistance. I can help you with identifying financial pitfalls in divorce mediation and create an agreement that ensures a happier, healthier future.

The Basic Steps of Divorce Mediation

The Basic Steps of Divorce MediationKnowing the basic steps of divorce mediation can help you understand what to expect from the process. At Elizabeth Henson, Attorney Mediator, P.C. in Denver, I find that providing a framework can help my clients feel better prepared. While each situation may differ slightly than others, divorce mediation generally consists of five basic components.

 

Getting Started

This is usually the foundation stage for mediation. You provide your mediator background information and your mediator will give you insight regarding the next steps, talking you through what to expect as the process moves forward.

Sometimes, the mediator will gather information about how you and your spouse communicate to determine the best approach for steering positive and productive conversation. At this point, there may be a simple assessment to determine areas where both parties agree and disagree. This will help your mediator decide how best to facilitate resolving any issues.

 

Information and Research

For successful mediation, both sides need to provide information regarding their situation, such as a complete (and documented) picture of finances. This stage may or may not be included during your first meeting with a mediator. Sometimes, certain information or paperwork may not be immediately available or under dispute. Your mediator can advise you on ways to track down the information you need so that you can move forward.

 

If your mediator is an attorney like me, they will also provide a general look at divorce laws and legal rules that may apply to your divorce. This can include information about how the typical court process for divorce, as well as feedback on possible court outcomes on issues such as spousal maintenance, child support, property division, and child custody. This information is meant to provide both parties with a better idea of the law and their responsibilities.

 

Expressing Needs and Interests

During this stage, the mediator helps the spouses determine their individual reasons for wanting particular outcomes. Outlining these interests helps with finding resolutions that address each spouse’s top priorities, concerns and needs successfully. Areas that are often at issue include children, property, debt, spousal maintenance, child support, and custody. Framing the needs and interests of both sides during mediation helps lay the foundation for any negotiating that may need to take place. Some items may be easily agreed upon, while other issues may require further negotiations and compromise.

 

The discussion of your needs and wants may take place in individual rooms or jointly. Your mediator will help determine what will work best for your circumstances.

 

Coming to Agreement

At this point in mediation, the goal is to have an understanding of your finances, your assets and debts, and your legal responsibilities. You also know what your spouse wants and have had the opportunity to discuss what outcome you wish to see. Now comes negotiation and coming to an agreement that works for both sides.

 

Negotiation sometimes begins with an exploration of various options. Your mediator will help both spouses evaluate and discuss possibilities in an effort to help narrow the choices to those most suitable for both parties. To get to a final agreement, both sides may need to make concessions and compromises. It can be one of the toughest in the basic steps of divorce mediation, involving a great deal of problem-solving, creative thinking and patience. The ultimate goal is to arrive at a solution that most closely meets the needs and interests of both spouses.

 

Finalization

In the last of the basic steps of divorce mediation, a tentative agreement (known as a Memorandum of Understanding, or MOU) is written and provided to both spouses for review outside of mediation and at their own pace. This agreement, however, is not binding until it is signed by both parties. Each of you can have an attorney review the agreement and provide legal counsel on the contents before you sign it. If you remain in agreement, you will then sign the MOU and submit it to the court for approval.

 

Here at Elizabeth Henson, Attorney Mediator, P.C. in Denver, I will help you through the basic steps of divorce mediation, empower you to take control of your own future, and assist you in finding a settlement that will work best for everyone. To learn more about how I can help you make the transition with dignity, please call or get in touch with me today.

Divorce Mediation Can Be Good for Children

Divorce Mediation Can Be Good for Children Henson Mediation Denver, ColoradoYou may be surprised to learn why divorce mediation can be good for children. Here at Elizabeth Henson, Attorney Mediator, P.C. in Denver, I have seen the benefits of mediation for everyone involved, but particularly the children. We all know how hard divorce can be on children. Mediation is one way to help reduce stress and limit the changes that children often experience when their parents divorce.

Here are some key reasons why divorce mediation can be good for children.

Future Focused

Accusations and blame are a big problem when trying to co-parent your children. Feeling angry and pointing fingers at each other for things that have happened in the past can greatly hinder your ability to find solutions. Mediation keeps you future-focused and fosters healthy decision- making. It can also improve your co-parenting skills and allow you to make choices that give your children a more positive home life during the divorce process and beyond.

Greater Privacy

No one wants their personal issues discussed in public. With mediation, your personal business remains private. The more private your personal business remains, the less likely that your children will hear things from third parties.

Personal Solutions

With mediation, you are not confined to the options provided by the court. You can be creative, developing solutions that fit your family. Every family is unique and requires personal solutions. As parents, you can make decisions that address the specific needs of your children.

Non-Adversarial

Mediation allows you to work with your spouse to find an amicable solution both of you can accept, focusing on shared goals and outcomes. Once parents are on the same team, it’s easier to make decisions about your children once you go your separate ways.

Reduces Stress

The dissolution of a marriage often creates sadness, anger, and a lot of stress. Emotions can be exacerbated when there are accusations, blame, and loss of control over the outcome. Your children may feel this stress, putting them in a very uncomfortable position. Mediation is a collaborative, cooperative process that can help reduce the stress during a very difficult time, offering a way to reduce anxiety for both the parents and children.

Communication Skills

I know from experience that success is greatly improved when all parties communicate openly and honestly. In a courtroom, your case is argued and outcomes ultimately decided by a judge. Mediation helps parents learn to communicate and resolve issues through calm discussion. These skills will set you up for success as you move forward as co-parents after the divorce is final.

At Elizabeth Henson, Attorney Mediator, P.C. in Denver, my services often provide a better way to manage a divorce. I will show you why divorce mediation can be good for children by guiding you through often contentious issues in a calm and productive manner. My goal is to facilitate a healthy, happy future for both parties and your children. Please get in touch today to learn more about how I can help you accomplish your goals.


Blogs and articles by Elizabeth Henson, Attorney Mediator, P.C. are for educational purposes only and to give you a general understanding of the law, not to provide any legal advice or be used as a substitute for competent legal advice from a licensed, professional attorney in your state or jurisdiction.

Use all blogs and articles at your own risk. The information presented may not reflect the most current legal developments, verdicts or settlements. These materials may be changed, improved, or updated without notice. Elizabeth Henson, Attorney Mediator, P.C. is not responsible for any errors or omissions in the content of this site or for damages arising from the use or performance of this site under any circumstances. By reading our blog and articles you also understand that there is no attorney-client relationship created between you and Elizabeth Henson, Attorney Mediator, P.C.